(What if it's too hard? Here are more Bible verses to help you with forgiveness.) Pray it every day, every hour, every minute if you have to. Pray that you can forgive the person who's hurt you. I said these steps weren't going to be easy. You are, and you deserve better than what these feelings are doing to you.Ĥ. Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. Ask God to change you and get rid of your anger despite the rotten situation you're in.īut now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. Give yourself permission to just focus on you for now. Right now, YOU need to be changed, and the person who's hurt you needs to be changed. Pray that your heart will be softened and you'll forgive. Pray for the person who is making you have big feelings. So what of this? Stop being angry?! How do you just stop?ģ. Psalm 37:8Īll scriptures are God-breathed, right? Every word is true. Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper - it only leads to harm. Do good, forgetting about the person who's made you angry for a while. Need a pick-me-up? Go do something kind for someone. Find a way to work it out, pray through it, move past it before you give the devil an in-road to your psyche. Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry. Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. Is that wrong?"īeing upset isn't a sin, but being controlled by your feelings is.Īnd don't sin by letting anger control you. He is saying to think about your situation, and see if it merits getting upset.Īre you saying something like, "YES! It does! I have a right to be mad. Think about it overnight and remain silent. Often, we need to in order to remedy a situation or to spur us on to action.ĭon't sin by letting anger control you. God recognizes that sometimes, we do get angry. The reader who wrote to me has endured her situation for five months. Enlist the help of someone who can stop it. If the wrong is something monumental - abuse, neglect, criminal - then DO SOMETHING. But what if the wrong is something really big? What if we can't just get over it? When we overlook wrongs, we treat others the way we want to be treated. We may be able to brush off the respect of men, but the righteousness of God doesn't go away so easily.ĭo to others as you would like them to do to you. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. What if the respect of men isn't what you're after? Sensible people control their temper they earn respect by overlooking wrongs. God's Word says that we are to control our tempers, even in the face of unfairness. The gut reaction to get upset in the face of unfairness never really goes away. Parents see it in their young children who are constantly on the lookout to make sure everything is fair. When people mistreat us and there's nothing we can do about it, we get mad. Control your temper. (Let's start right away with the hard stuff!).I am praying that you are challenged by these steps, and that you find a way to get through them all. So I created a numbered list for you.įollowing the steps isn't as easy as 1-2-3. Give me a numbered list, and I'm a happy camper. 12 Bible Verses & 5 Steps to Overcoming Anger and ResentmentĬoncrete steps make sense to me. For now, let's just talk about the emotions you're feeling. I think it's helpful to look at that more vulnerable emotion and to deal with that, but you can come back to that later. My therapist says that anger is always masking a more vulnerable emotion. I prayed that God would give me the words to help both of you. I prayed about this woman and her family, and I prayed for you. They're understandable.Īnd she's looking for answers, just like you are. Your anger and resentment are as real and honest and justified as hers are. I can't share her whole story, but the details are unimportant. She is suffering in an unbearably unjust situation, and she is angry and resentful at the person causing it. She saw my post on overcoming disappointment, and she asked if I could help her. Find encouragement in scripture as you explore and resolve your angry feelings and resentment.Ībout a week ago, I received an email from a reader. The Bible is the ultimate resource for overcoming any negative emotion, especially anger.